Good for you! You made it through Thanksgiving and survived another family holiday, but next on the horizon is December and we all know what that means - more family gatherings and the added pressure of the “perfect” gift.
Holidays are about the memories, so how can you make yours merry and bright? Here are five sure fire tips to get you started from Deanna Brann, PhD, Weddings blogger with The Huffington Post and author of the new book, Reluctantly Related: Secrets To Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-Law.
- Talk with the parents about the gift-giving rules for the grandchildren. Know what they want and don’t want for their children in the way of gifts, money spent, number of gifts, etc. If it isn’t clear, ask.
- Explore the holiday plans in advance so you know what is happening when and by whom – don’t assume anything. Get clarity so you know in advance how the holidays will be and where you fit into them.
- Don’t take things personally – holidays are stressful. Parents are trying to please everyone, plus they want to create their own holiday traditions.
- Think of some things you can do with your grandchildren that don’t include monetary gifts. Create the memories by doing, not necessarily by buying. The grandkids will remember what you did long after the holidays, but they won’t remember what you bought them.
- Create a family tradition of your own with your grandchildren. Create something that your grandchildren will not only remember, but also look forward to year after year.
For more tips on building a better relationship with your MIL or DIL please contact me for a review copy of Reluctantly Related. Dr.Brann is available for interviews on all aspects of the MIL/DIL relationship. Additional information about Dr. Brann is posted below for your convenience.
